You can be nice to the elderly driver putzing along, or you can be rude.
You can be nice to the co-worker you don't like very much, or you can be rude.
You don't even need to say or do anything to be nice or rude: thoughts count.
So here's the thing. Let's say you're a regular reader here. You know I'm struggling with anxiety and depression. And yet you choose to leave a snarky and ANONYMOUS remark. Gee, thanks. You made my day.
Be nice or be rude.