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Things your kids will whine about now, thank you for later

  • Making them learn to cook.
  • Making them learn to clean. (Seriously. My daughter's freshman college roommate had never cleaned a bathroom in her life. My daughter was happy to show her how.)
  • Not rushing to school with forgotten homework.
  • Not rushing to school with forgotten lunch.
  • Making them stick out piano lessons.
  • Encouraging them to spend time with elderly relatives.
  • Acts of service in church and community.
  • Taking them to the symphony.
  • Making them call doctor's offices to schedule their own appointments.
  • Taking them out to really nice restaurants, with weird food, where they have to get dressed up and mind their manners.
  • Introducing them to a lot of different music.
  • Trying new food. (Even better, have them help you make new food!)
  • Calling adults "Mr." and "Mrs." ("No one else does!" Yeah, I know...)
  • Putting limits on screen time.
  • Encouraging reading. 
  • Getting a library card and going to the library every week.
  • Not keeping soda in the house.
  • Doing crafts and exploring art, even if you're not very good at it.
  • Learning a skill like knitting.
  • Figuring out directions and map-reading.
  • Taking family portraits.
  • Knowing it's okay to get lost - both literally and figuratively.

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